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Never Going Backwards

 

Sorry it has been a month since I have written but my body is being a complete asshole and that is saying it nicely.

I  want to share some of the bullshit I have been going through so you all at least know what is going on.

As if it wasn’t enough going through what my body has been going through, i also get to deal with people saying one thing and doing another. Here is some advice, take it or leave it…… DON’T OPEN YOUR MOUTH UNLESS YOU PLAN ON DOING WHAT YOU SAY!  I am DONE with words that mean absolutely NOTHING.  I have zero TIME to wait on empty promises.

There are only 24 hours in a DAY, use your time wisely. I spent 19 years in a relationship where my cats where more attentive and will be dammed if I ever allow anyone to treat me that way again.  This is for EVERYONE.  I will NEVER go backwards, a valuable lesson I have learned is that their is always someone waiting to spend time with you, so don’t waste it on people who do not deserve you.

Lately I have spent more time in bed than anything and it has been a reminder that my life is short and what time I have out of bed will be spent with people who actually want to be in it. PERIOD

I appreciate all the emails, calls and texts I have received during this rough patch! I am sorry if i haven’t gotten back as quickly as I would have liked but I choose not to spend all my time on electronics. I hope you all understand.

 

Some of you have asked about my last blood tests, I purposely have been avoiding them and this is why…. My last tests confirmed that I have the worst version of my disease, I am 100% seropositve. I do not want to go into details but if you are curious, look it up. It sucks, i have been so afraid to see this word ANYWHERE in my chart. But hey at least I finally know why my health has been deteriorating so quickly. It confirms why my pain is off the charts and why nothing seems to be helping.  So that’s the shitty news…..

 

So as you can imagine my moods have been like this….

 

This past month has been the hardest in a long time, I have prayed to die, prayed for help and prayed people pull their head out of their asses….because LIFE is happening RIGHT now and it hasn’t been a bowl of fucking cherries. I am so frustrated, I feel alone, I feel doctors are fucking idiots, I feel like i am wasting away and see no end in sight. I fucking hate RA, EDS and all the other little fuckers that are killing me!

I hope to write more next week until then keep the prayers, positive vibes coming my way, i need them more now than ever.  XOXO

Its summer time Bitches

I hope you all are enjoying the beginning of summer!

 

I plan on answering more emails next week as this week has been a bad week, my body decided to be a pill.  I missed almost an entire week of work and I spent some time in the hospital. It was just one of those weeks when you want to “tap out.”  I was completely miserable. the dizziness, the vomiting and the all over feeling like shit does get old…..

 

BUT…..  today I was able to get back to work! It felt so good to be out of bed and be around my work family.

I do not feel as good as I felt 2 weeks ago but I definitely feel better than the past week.  My blood tests are not good and my inflammation has been high and I know that is why my body hurts so much but dammit, I really can not take anymore weeks like last week. It truly takes all I have to stay optimistic when my body keeps being an ass.

The Doctors try and help  with the pain control but sometimes nothing seems to help.  I  just have to push through it and pray for it to end. It is so frustrating, scary and really getting OLD. I want a break, a break from it all.  My inflammation numbers are very high and have been for awhile now which angers me. It angers me because the Chemo and Biologics I am taking are supposed to be helping with that and it is not. I feel like I am suffering extra due to medication side affects for NO reason. The Doctors are meeting in the next few weeks to discuss what is next for me and I am praying that it is something better than what I am currently going through.  Truth is all the ideas they have already discussed with me are no better than what I am doing now, essentially new drug name with same fucked up side affects.  I really am trying to be optimistic but I feel so burned out. Until they find a cure, I feel I am in a never ending battle that I am never going to win.

 

Nevertheless……..Now more than ever I do want to live, because FINALLY outside of my health things are GOOD. I want to see where this new path is leading.  I have been enjoying hanging with friends. Going to our favorite Bar with the group…

having BBQ’s with the Walkers…

 

But Most importantly I have been enjoying my time with the Best Boyfriend a girl could have.

 

Ryan thank  you for showing me that broken pieces can go back together. Your love and support have been such a blessing to me. What is so great about you is that you never had to say the words, “i love you,” because you have always showed me that you cared. It is so good to have someone just do things without having me to ask. The way you comfort me when my health is kicking my butt has been a nice change. I love that I can count on you to be supportive, I know you have my back. I love you for all the above reasons and so much more…………….

 

To my spoonie family, keep fighting, keep putting one foot in front of the other and NEVER give UP!!! I do not know about all of you but being sick and shown me how STRONG i can be and that I can get through whatever life throws at me!

As always thanks for all the love and support XOXO

 

 

Blanket Of Scars

I have been getting a lot of emails in regards to how I am doing in my health and personal life, so here is an update….

 

PERSONAL LIFE

I have kind of been all over the place emotionally.  Even though I feel blessed for how my current Personal life is, It has been hard to just turn off all the feelings of the past. For some, it is easy to move on but I also know that when you do not deal with your past it ALWAYS comes back to get ya….eventually. So for me, I try to deal with the past a little at a time that way it doesn’t bite me in the ass later.

It has been 3 months now since my life was turned upside down and I still find myself to be a little vulnerable to certain things. It can be simple things that remind me  of something and then sometimes it can be something huge. But no matter what the something is, I always find my way to keep positive and continue on my new journey.

A few of the emails and messages I have received have asked how I feel now emotionally compared to when it first happened. I would like to  take a moment and answer….

This above quote says it all! I think most of you would agree that when you choose to spend your life, your time with someone that even when things go bad, you can both have the decency to be respectful to one another. But throughout this whole mess, I have been BLOWN away at how i have been treated. I guess in the end 19 years did NOT earn me the respect I feel I deserve, instead I was slapped in the face over and over again. I was told it would  all be amicable and that their would not be any hard feelings. I could keep my car that I had been paying on for 4 years, i could get all my belongings…etc But in the end all I got was lies and more lies.

I was hurt physically, I was cheated on but nothing hurt worse than the way he lied to me.  Of all the people in my life, I never once thought that he would be the one to be  behind the trigger.  Betrayal can be so painful.

But with all that said, today I stand tall. I have forgiven him, pushed him off my path and have continued on. I know there will still be a few moments when he crosses my mind but now I am confident on how I will deal with those moments. I have grown so much in these past few months and I love getting back to feeling like ME again. To sum it up, He was a blanket I carried around for 19 years, and due to his behavior and  his issues the blanket(him) became old and ragged.

I do not need a blanket anymore. I GOT this SHIT!

Sometimes you have to go through the rough times to see the beauty that is in your life.

 

HEALTH

For once in my life my health is the WORST thing in my life.

My cell death is really high and I am on the highest dose of chemo/biologic mix. I have several Dr appts this month and I am praying that my specialist has an idea on what to do next,  Because the current regiment is NOT working.  I want to see what tomorrow brings! I want to live! I want to enjoy whatever time I have left.

I hope this answered most of everyone’s questions. I will update when I can.  As always,Thanks for all the support and love!

2017 In Review

If you are reading this….guess what you made it another year too! 

Ya ya, I know I am late posting my final 2017 post..it sucks being sick, sometimes you just do not get shit done……anyways………I hope you are proud of what all you have survived and done this past year……If I had to pick the hardest year to date since diagnosis, last year definitely was it……

My year started off OK. I had just started a higher dose of chemo but my pain patches and oral meds seemed to be working enough for me to be able to do a few things and make it to work. Then March came around and I went in for my 21st surgery(my pain pump) and the whole world as I knew it changed.

This was supposed to be the “best” thing for pain control in regards to a disease that causes 24/7 pain but it has turned into my nightmare. My disease has caused a lot of problems and stopped most of my dreams in their tracks. This pain pump has destroyed everything else. I went from the disease kicking my ass 3-4 days to not being able to move much for weeks on end. It took 7 months for the pain pump Dr to listen to me and remove one of the drugs from the pump that i KNEW was causing me tons of issues. Day one after the surgery everything tasted and smelled like metal and I gained 26 pounds within a few months. I still have the pain pump, see my Dr every 4 weeks for refills, I am back on oral pain meds as well, my spine hurts all the time where the pump is implanted and it is only costing 1300 a month….I hate this thing! PLEASE if you are considering a pain pump, look into it before doing it…..I know it helps some people but NOT everyone!!!!!!!!!!

The whole pain pump nightmare has made me even more miserable than before…if you can imagine that……HOWEVER several other things happened in 2017……

Our Gun range family got bigger, we gained…. Dan, Dimitri, Don, Ashley, Drew, Alisha and Nick

I absolutely love the RGR crew, they may not know but sometimes on my worst days, they truly give me life, they remind me to keep going and not to give up. Thanks guys

I truly believe God brings people onto your path for a reason..some people are meant to stay on it, some are meant to come and go and some stay for awhile and then go on to the next thing. I feel blessed for those few who have stayed on my path and helped me in one way or another.

Thank YOU Jaime for just listening, sometimes that is all I needed….and please .know that your fucking bitmojis always gave me something to smile or laugh about…..I wish you only the best in 2018!

And thank goodness my Marine Ryan is back…woohoo!! We have way to much fun together……….Laughter is good medicine!!

Sabrina, words can NOT express what you mean to me…God definitely brought us on each others path. I know it sucks but just knowing someone is going through the same shit as I am somehow makes it more bearable. God Bless you and your friendship.

Making memories are the only thing in life we take with us….SO make them!!

I spent roughly  32 days this year in the hospital…super thankful to my awesome nurses, Roco and Sabrina. I spend a lot of time with nurses and most have been complete asses so I am BLESSED when i get to  see Roco and Sabrina. Roco even when not my nurse will still come in and make sure I am taken care of…he is a Godsend!  Sabrina will go to bat for me if she thinks the Dr is not doing their job….amazing nurses those two <3

Even though I was busy spending time in the hospital and in bed, i was able to work a few days or more……..and since the meds made my hair fall out… I decided to have a lot of fun with hair colors.

My  health wasn’t the only thing that caused me  great sadness this year… I lost my oldest partner in crime…..Jigs

This really broke my heart because last year we lost his brother Haussen….They were the only ones who loved me unconditionally and never left my side.

These were MY boys..and they will be missed and I pray to see them again someday.

I had a few happy days this year as well. I saw my friend and favorite singer/songwriter Tyrone Wells. Tyrone Wells has been such a blessing in my life…I hope he knows just how special he is and how much his music inspires me to never give up on hope.  Thank you for coming into my life 8 years ago!

Your music inspired my latest tattoo….even though my body is killing me…I try to remember this  life is beautiful…..

FINAL 2017 THOUGHTS…

2017, I hope eventually becomes a distant memory because it absolutely sucked. I went through more trials than I ever thought I could and even though I came through on the other side I am TIRED. I am Tired of fighting with my body.  I pray to God every night to either take me or keep giving the strength to push through because this life although it has its beautiful moments is FUCKING HARD. Nothing I have ever gone through has been as hard as fighting my own body that wants to kill me….not hurt me but kill me.  I have never ever felt so depressed or wanted to die more than I have in 2017. Chronic illness and Chronic pain is so consuming and it demands to be felt in a way I wish on NO ONE.

I pray that 2018 brings people in my life who are not afraid to stick around even if that means watching me screaming, being poked/tortured by awful poison meds and praying to die. I pray people have more compassion towards others, truth is everyone is battling something. I hope that new Doctors come on board with new ideas on how we can fight my mean ass body. I pray God continues to hold my hand on days I no longer want to live. I hope those around me watching start taking nothing for granted….

I do not believe in New Years Resolutions because lets be honest, no one really follows through with what they say, however I am going to hold myself accountable with this quote:

And I am going to remember to do this daily:

So here is to 2018…I pray you all continue to fight, even if it is only for another second. You are not alone WARRIORS….XOXO

XOXO See you all Next year

Don’t Expect To See A Change, If You Don’t Make One!

Hi!! I know this post has been one of the most anticipated by many of you..HOWEVER I want to cover a few things before I tell you all the BIG news…….

Health wise my body has been in SO MUCH pain!!!!!!! 24/7 pain when you have a gosh dang-it pain pump is BULLSHIT! AARRG This whole situation has been a complete mess and I feel so out of control. I am not sleeping, I am eating during odd hours and I am just over IT.

So last week I took all these blood tests and we should have all the results in the next 48 hours but one came back the same day. This particular test showed my cell death has doubled in the last month. So as much as I want control over my health, at the very moment I need the chemo and biologic meds BUT I am not giving up on looking for alternative stuff. I am DONE watching my hair fall to the floor, I am DONE bleeding from what seems like everywhere. I am DONE with how these chemical meds make me feel.  My asshole disease DOES enough to me! My specialist says the chemo and biologic mix slows the disease progress so if I continue not to do treatment, the disease will be very progressive…..Like i said before one test is already back and the other 14 will be back within the next 48 hours. With the first test already bad, I am so afraid of what the other ones will show. I feel so selfish for stopping the meds BUT I needed the break…….It has been 5 FUCKING years of that shit. What if this is the very reason my pain has tripled? Did I do this to myself? Is my body punishing me? Please keep me in your prayers this is going to be a rough next few days. And even though i restarted the poison meds a few days ago, I might have already done some serious damage that may require some other fucked up meds…….But on a positive note, I am looked cute on test day..

. And with me, when one vein says enough is enough….they hit the other side……Share and share alike 😉

If you follow me, you know this year has been pretty rough on me, It seems like every time I turn around something else is in my way.

Truth is, I never thought my world  would turn from this  to this 

Yes I am smiling in both pictures BUT ONE has no idea of what is about to happen, ONE does not know that in a matter of weeks, she will be giving up on her Bachelors in Criminal Justice, giving up an amazing career, watch people shut the front door  and never come back, ONE will pass on some amazing opportunities,and live a life full of poison meds, disabilities and severe pain. One will be forced to trade in her energy and friends for severe fatigue and Dr’s. The other ONE is smiling because even though my hair is falling out due to meds, my organs are struggling due to disease, I AM STILL A FIGHTER.  Yes most days I want to JUMP off a cliff, BUT I have learned to live for the Good days, the days I can get out of bed, feel the disease and pain rip through my body and still Smile. 

With ALL that said I am so grateful for those of you who let me be silly, who push me past the negative……..

Some of you live far away now But keep in close touch and I love you all for that! I miss and love you guys so much! The rest of you fools get to deal with me a few times a week….SUCKERS

P.S. if you don’t see yourself above stop being so SENSITIVE………….. HA!

Sabrina girl we have to get together eventually, can you imagine the selfies? HA HA……thank you so much girl for coming into my life. I love that we share so much even the bad parts..the health stuff…..shit If we were healthy we wouldn’t even know about each other….. #shieldmaidens

Later this week, I will be sharing with you all a taste of Sabrina’s health journey..so be sure to read it under the Tab titled  Stories that inspire you…….

Take time to be silly…in the end NOTHING we own is going with us SO MAKE MEMORIES……

 

Outside of the pain, I have been to the Dr 3 times in the last week…….I think they call that dating?!

This one is for you folks who say…….”Hang in there Kari.”

Unless YOU have or ARE going through what us “spoonies” go through….please think before you speak. I know it is hard to find things to say to those of us who are struggling everyday but I personally would rather hear nothing then, “you look good today, you must feel ok,” “the pain should be better tomorrow,” ” tomorrow is a new day,” “you can do it,” and all of course my all time favorite…..”you look so good, how can you be so sick.”       I had no idea you could SEE INSIDE ME……… I am Impressed!!

 

BUT IF YOU REALLY COULD SEE INSIDE, THIS IS WHAT YOU WOULD SEE….

I know many of you mean well but this is ONE thing we all struggle with. Truth is many of us will NEVER be healthy again, this is our NEW NORMAL and it sucks, if you could just imagine having the FLU forever along with some Broken bones….then MAYBE just MAYBE you can imagine what our life is like.

Since my last post, I have received many emails in regards to being left, or being treated like crap by those who say they love you. If you remember nothing else…remember this…

Everybody has bad days, even those who do not share our health issues, so allow for those days but if it goes beyond that and into ABUSE….

I think one of the hardest things i am STILL learning is this…

Even when I am weak and in more pain than i want to explain, I still push myself to make others happy when they could careless what I do or don’t do. It is who I AM. I am the type of person who gives 100% in ANY relationship even on my worst days. This is one of the things that I will be changing, because I am wasting so much energy on people who don’t give a shit.  Sometimes through all the health stuff, I forget my worth. I  get lost in all the pain and suffering. I forget I am a person, a GOOD person. None of us are perfect BUT this doesn’t mean we HAVE to put up with shit. Our health is ENOUGH.  My goal is to make SURE my health is the only NEGATIVE thing in MY LIFE. *Side note*** for those of you going through a rough breakup/friendship..whatever, I am here to listen. You are NOT alone! TAKE care OF YOU!!!!

 

 

 

ALRIGHT ALRIGHT…….You have all been patient enough..

 

Where I am now, I am NOT growing as a person. My Doctors can no longer do anything BUT keep me comfortable. Everyday I do the same thing over and over again. This is NOT how I want to live. So We are moving. We are leaving Nevada. I need to see better/different Doctors. We are currently looking for different treatments, I really don’t have time to waste. No else advocates for me BUT ME. I do not need to get into detail but every aspect of my life is at a STANDSTILL. Everywhere I look, I am the sick girl, I will never get the opportunities that others are given. I will never be given the opportunity to advance because of my “disabilities.” Every time I get involved in something outside of my health, I hit road bump after road bump. I am DONE. I am with DONE with some people here in Reno, I am done with Doctors who just want to cut and fill my body with pills. I will no longer settle. I want to go where no one knows me. I want to be appreciated. I want to spread my wings before they are fully clipped. There is nothing in Nevada for us. You would think living here for half my life I would have some ties but I found out very quickly when I got sick, just how fake people can be and just how bad the Doctor/hospital care is.  Sure I will miss some of you who I have a special bond with but life goes on……It takes 2 keep a friendship……i will see just how many of you keep in touch….and YES i know phones work both ways….I know how to use mine, Do you?

I will keep you all posted on the move date, please do not ask where we are going, it is not important right now, we are not moving anywhere to be close to any one thing or anyone..We are doing this for US…….That is all I have to say on the subject. 

 

The other news is…a few months back 2 publishers approached me with book offers(apparently some people like what I have to say…… ha!)The choice of who to go with was easy!  I have decided to go with a publishing company that stands for FAMILY, supports our country and understands some of my struggles. I do not want to say much at the moment except that I am excited to do this and proud to be a part of this amazing journey.  This book will be time consuming, therapeutic(i am sure), But so worth it. And of course some of you can have a signed copy….. LOL

When i first began writing, i did it to get my health demons out, I had no idea how much my life, my words, my struggles would end up helping so many others like myself. I have to admit most days the future seems bleak, i can barely see the light at the end of the tunnel and I am scared and unsure where my health journey is taking me BUT it is silver linings like this that give me HOPE…and sometimes that is all we need to get us through each second of the day…..

Thank you for your continued support….Much love to all of you <3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Stopped waiting for the light at the End of the tunnel…..and LIT that Bitch up Myself!

Hi Everyone,

It has been a few weeks since my last post, so lets catch you all up……

April 6th I had a Dr appt with my Rheumatologist. I have a really hard time dealing with her because she is one of those Dr’s that says, “even if I have your diagnosis wrong, I am giving the meds that will attack it all, so no worries.” Umm excuse me, I am having some new symptoms can we look at those?  “No Kari, as I said before it really does not matter, I treat all blood/immune diseases with the same meds.”  UGGGG   The only thing I got out of that appointment was my blood work forms.

Friday Morning, i spent with a vampire(phlebotomist.) I have been seeing the folks at quest diagnostics for more years than i would like to share 😉 They have online appointment scheduler which I love, no more wasting *spoons* at the vampire house! The ladies who work at quest are always super friendly and I do not feel like a number to them which is NICE!

Saturday I was still feeling this shit spinal headache so i spent most of the day at home, although we did have dinner at beefys. I really do not care for their food but everyone else does so I am about 80% sure it is the chemo meds fucking with my taste.

Sunday the 9th, i made it to work which was great! I love when I can get out and talk to adults instead of spending the entire day with furkids, day in and day out. Even though I get to be around such cuteness….

Cuteness everywhere I go……Girls with guns RULE!

 We do have fun!

Monday I did manage to make it to work although I was having a lot of pain around my pump area. For 5 hours i faked my way through it with a smile. I even got to shoot some new guns. The Glock 10mm was awesome!

The rest of the week (Tuesday-Friday) I did my chemo and continued to have pain around my pump area which by Friday was making me just miserable.  My arms and shoulders were also aching like i had spent the last 3 days at the gym……My blood tests also came back and were shitty, like i expected. I will write more about this in a moment.

Even though all this bullshit, I did have a few positives this week…my BFF Rhonda called and we chatted for over and hour which was great, i really needed her. My friend from work (kim) came over on Thursday to save my ass which I was very grateful for! I drove to Quincy, Ca for a LOH pre ride. I enjoyed this time just driving and trying to clear my head. It was so beautiful up in the mountains. I do LOTS of things to relieve my stress, my health gives me..

 

Brian and I started the Netflix series Iron Fist which has been pretty good so far.  Sometimes when all the shit is hitting the fan, it is good just to occupy your mind with other stuff.

Ok back to the Blood test, I have avoided it enough!  The test was bad as I projected it would be. I know my body!!!! I can NOT emphasize this enough. We all know our bodies….healthy or not! Listen to it! Anyways, my liver is struggling, both my ALT/AST are high, My white count is down(more than the methotrexate(chemo drug) usually does,) and MORE importantly the numbers that tell us how much my cells are killing me is has sky rocketed…..let me explain.

Lets say, you are a healthy person, you go in for some blood work…you MIGHT see a 1-3 on the scale. This is  Normal.

Abnormally High begins at 14

Mine is 98

Now do you get it?! I certainly hope so. So you  can see why I have been in a pure panic. The chemo and biologic drugs that i do EVERY gosh dang week are supposed to be pushing these numbers down! IF THIS IS WHAT it looks like when they are supposedly doing their job..what does it look like when i quit them???????

BUT life goes on…I pull up my big girl panties, fake a smile and go into work.  I can’t talk for everyone but when I feel so much frustration I do one of 2 things: i either freak out or I do funny things..like drive in the middle of the Gun range….HA! Laughter truly is good medicine!

 

This past week was a long week for me, not only because I was not feeling well or the fact that my blood tests were on my brain 24/7 but because I worked extra hours and I was also dealing with another sick cat. Oh when it pours it fucking pours at our house.

I did manage to walk 2 miles this week.. HOORAY!!!

As if things couldn’t get worse, i was reminded that it can always get worse…

On Sunday i went to work as usual, was feeling bad but not enough to call in. I worked my hours, headed home and as I undressed, i saw all this yellow stuff on my belly guard that goes over my pain pump incision. In my head i made all these excuses of what it could be, and just went on with my afternoon.  It wasn’t until around 10 pm, i looked down at my incision and saw a whole in the incision that was leaking out some kind of liquid. I panicked, called the Dr and he said get to the hospital NOW. We headed over and good thing we did, i have not 1 but 2 infections around the pump. There is a saying,” God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.” I call bullshit! Seriously Lord, I am so overwhelmed. How can I possibly keep going?

Always amazes me how the morning can start like this..

and end like this………

So for those people who say, You look so good, how can you be so sick….spend some time with anyone fighting an autoimmune disease…my door is always open….

In the hospital they filled 4 of these bottles with my blood and 4 other vials for testing.

It was no Buenos! Then made me stay the night so they could give me extra strength IV antibiotics. If you know me, you know how much I love spending the night in the hospital. ;-( I will say though, the Dr was nice and so was my nurse. They even wheeled in a spare bed so that Brian could stay with me, because It was the RIGHT thing to do……although he slept…LOL

The following day I was sent to see my Specialist….who was an hour late……

He said he was worried about the infections because of my no immune system, so we decided to take me off of chemo and biologic’s for the next few weeks so that the antibiotics can do their job…or so we hope.  I also have an appt for May 4th with an infectious disease specialist.

I feel this is a double edge sword and this is why, first off taking me off all chemo and biologic’s means that my damn disease will have a party(remember my number from above?) so this will make me very uncomfortable and might do some real organ damage. Secondly, the Dr is unsure if these antibiotics will help with what infection my body is currently fighting which means if it continues, I will have emergency surgery to remove the pump and worse case i could die from the infection spreading to all my organs that are already sick.  Like I said double edge sword.

But with all this going on…

and even if I don’t I will go down fighting with everything I have.

 

 

To everyone out there dealing with Life….Hang in there….never give up. It can always be worse…..

We are all worth fighting for. We are all dying the moment we are born. Some of us are just meant to go sooner than others. I would like people to say after I am gone, that I lived every moment I could. I fought and never gave up. I believe that God has a bigger plan that I have for myself. Am I scared, yes everyday, but if i let fear win, i die now. So when you see me out and and about, know I am fighting with everything I have to be out and about. If you have your health, do NOT let anything or anyone else take time from your life. Live to the fullest. Do it for you and no one else.Everyone goes through bad stuff, just remember it isn’t always going to be like this. As my friend told me once before she lost her battle to breast cancer, “don’t be sad we are sick Kari, we are going somewhere pain and sadness does not exist.” And i KNOW this but it is the getting to that place that is zero fun. I have a hate/love relationship with my disease. I hate it because it is so damn painful, i have to take meds that make me sicker, i see Dr’s more than I see friends, I am bed ridden 70% of the time, I can’t enjoy the things i used to do like play the drums, hike, jet ski, train like I want, work full time, finish my bachelors, and so much more. I love my disease because i now appreciate every second of my life(for the most part), I love people wholeheartedly, i take very little for granted and i have more compassion for those around me.

Speaking of compassion, I would love if everyone I know locally would join us/help on June 24th when we ride for the 22 veterans who commit suicide daily.

Be grateful that we live in the USA and for the people who put up their lives DAILY for ours! a HUGE thank you to all veterans and active duty!! Prayers to those who have lost family members to suicide.

 

Life will never be perfect for any of us, however It is what we do with what we are dealt with, that makes or breaks us. I might be a mess 4 days out of 7 but I get up on my own two feet and fight back the other 3. 

I will never stop believing I have a purpose.

One last note….I know many of you are worried about me, i can tell by the many texts, calls, etc. I promise you all, even when i am as quiet as a mouse, I am not giving up, sure I am probably thinking about it but I am a fighter, I always have been. I don’t give up easily. This health journey has been super hard, I never thought in a million years that I would wake up sick and never get better. I never thought so many people would leave me because I was sick. I never knew how evil people could be when you needed them the most. I never thought I would have to give up so many life goals due to being sick. I never thought I would be living in bed most my life. I learned a long time ago that it is normal for the chronically/terminal sick to go through the 5 stages of grief. I often find myself especially after bad blood tests and or bad health news, that i like to stay in the  Isolation and anger stage for awhile. It is hard to get through your head that your OWN body is killing you and that no matter what you do…it doesn’t change.

Thank You all for your continued support, I love you all so much. Support each other, treat others with respect,  be grateful for every second you get and no matter what your struggling with be BRAVE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your worth fighting for

 

I hope that everybody has had a great past few weeks. I have been busy being sick fighting this damn disease and have had very little time to keep everyone updated…..BUT I have a few minutes to spare before I go back to bed….and I guess I will spend them with YOU….FEEL LUCKY

Here is where we left off…

 

Tuesday, November 24 Well lets just say I spent the day in bed….it was chemo day.  Although I did crawl out of bed long enough to get my Christmas tree out and put together.  Damn did that wear me OUT.  This was a reminder of just how little energy I have most days.

Wednesday the 25th I woke with severe spine pain!!! I  HATE how chemo drugs mixed with my disease attack my spine. AARG  THIS was a stay in bed all day kind of day!

Thursday the 26th was thanksgiving…. I managed to eat some turkey , potatoes and stuffing. I did not let my belly be the boss today ……however this is how I felt later in the day.. Internal bleeding is zero fun ;-(

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Friday the 27th I stayed in bed wishing I could go shopping or at least go out and have some coffee…

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Saturday I woke up and I couldn’t move my hands for hours OH HOW I LOVE MY DISEASE!! But I was super grateful my girlfriend made me a Christmas tree to go with my Christmas décor. I love how perfect it is for me!! Thanks Blondie

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Sunday I worked for a few hours and even visited with Santa…He better bring me some gifts…I only ask for a warm plug in blanket and some carhartt socks. Part of my disease does not allow my blood to circulate so I freeze all year long. These items would make my life MUCH better. Side NOTE…I used to ask for jewelry, cars and clothes and now its stuff to help me get through my health SHIT….Funny how things change.

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Monday the 30th I worked…I love where I work, I know I say it all the time BUT everyone I work with is so Awesome and they don’t make me feel sick.  Sundays and Mondays really FORCE me to get away from my bed ridden disease. A BIG hug to all I work with, you all are super special 😉

I started DECEMBER off with a BANG and I did my chemo drugs and it was just a crappy day as USUAL. WOOHOO BAH HUMBUG

 

Wednesday, December 2  I was very sick in fact I was in bed until 7 PM vomiting and I HAD FLU Like  feelings but I had to drive to Sacramento at 8pm so I could pick my BFF up at the airport. Super excited to see RHONDA!!

December 3 I went in for my second treatment and this time Brian tagged along so he could learn how to do them so I could later on do them at home. I feel like such a puss when I allow tears to fall down my cheek as they push the drugs into my system.  I just hate all these chemicals in my body. I just do NOT know which is worse the drugs or just letting the disease KILL me. Sometimes I just want to let the disease take over because I am suffering anyways so what is the fucking point?! Just another one of these damn days….

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Friday Dec 4th,  I am very sick and I was in bed until 7 PM again which really pissed my off because my BFF flew from LA NOT to watch to watch me suffer and or sleep all day. BUT this is MY fucking life and this is what I do every week!!!!  I just feel so guilty sometimes that my body doesn’t care who is visiting or who wants to do something.

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Saturday Dec 5th is a very important day to Brian and I and we had plans but so DID my asshole disease.  He however was able to take me and Rhonda to dinner and I was able to eat half of a Boca burger . YA I got to eat!!!!!! Later in the evening Rhonda and i made each other wreaths! they turned out great and we made another memory. In the end that is what life is all about! I can’t tell you how happy i am having her here visiting. I am just sad i was in bed or in the bathroom more than i was with her.  Rhonda if my disease takes me before we see each other again know i love you times INFINITI. No one has ever stuck around like you. She never said, i was to sick to be around or that she didn’t want to watch me die like other friends did. You are what a real friend IS. Thank YOU

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December 6th I made it work or rather crawled to work….(although I bet none of you knew how I sick I felt) I can HIDE IT WELL. 😉 I then drove back to Sacramento to drop Rhonda off back at the airport. Then very carefully drop back over icy Donner. It took me 2 hours longer to get home.  When you start with ZERO energy and then have to do all I did….lets just say it SUCKED.  If I could just find a way  to get rid of a QUARTER of this pain, I would…

December 7th I made it to work AGAIN. YA ME!!!! I am so grateful for the customers who always put a smile on my face every Monday.  They have no idea how much I am suffering inside and to hear the compliments they tell me really make my day. Also Colin the 49er Elf keeps me busy and I heard he keeps the crew on their toes during the days I don’t work. I am very happy Colin found a new job…. HA! This coming weekend I will be bringing Colin’s girlfriend by the Gun Range for a conjugal visit. She misses him. 😉  See what you all miss at the Range? You should make time to come down and see us all! I mean it is the only place where Colin the elf will model an UZI for you!!

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December 8th (yesterday) I woke up and could not feel my legs and left arm. I guess I am now having a reaction to the chemo and other drug mixing! SHOCKING!!! Lol   So because of this I could not do my chemo meds last night because I was miserable. Today was also a day where i just stood in the shower crying as more of my hair fell to the floor. I never thought my hair had to so much pull on my life. Sometimes i just feel so ugly and i am tired of wearing bandannas. I just want my old life BACK…or parts of it.

 

December 9th is TODAY bitches…..I woke up at 11, forced myself to get up and take the DOG to the park and enjoyed the fresh air. Picked up my meds and came back home to go back to bed. And well now I am writing to all of you because some of you are impatient…HEEHEE  I am just teasing….I love how many followers I have now and how many of you write to talk to me about your crap and or happy experiences(do we have many?! ;-)) with your disease.  My online support group is how i get through most days.

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I really hope everyone is enjoying their month of December so far. Before I got my death sentence/millionth diagnosis, Christmas was my favorite time of the year. However now it makes me a little sad, I have no energy to do as much décor as I would like, or to go shopping(and since being on disability and living with a chronic painful disease I can’t work but 2 days now so $$$ is low) or to travel anywhere. Sometimes this month just reminds me just how unlucky I am.  I am too exhausted to do anything, this is the month 3 years ago I started weekly chemo drugs. This is the month I just sit and stare at my tree praying that magically it will decorate itself because I am so exhausted after just putting it together and then I am also reminded that I will have to take it all apart in a few weeks….UGGG

Anyways being negative or being stuck in my own head doesn’t help although I know writing and sharing this helps others in my same situation. So i will just keep at it, one day at a time…fuck that…one second at a time because that is really what I AM DOING….and i think most days i do it pretty well…

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Ok so here is where I bitch or INFORM you all on something , in OTHER words this is my opinion, take it or leave it i don’t care ….

So today I open carried..  (yes ken and Greg, I can hear your comments and evil stares..) to the store to pick up my meds. Anyways the cashier asked how she can carry a gun. I then asked her if she has ever trained or anything and she said NO and that she just want to own one.****** This is what I told her …..i want to be a ballerina so I will just go and buy some ballerina shoes and a tutu and then magically I will dance like a ballerina. She quickly replied with, “you can’t just be a ballerina like that, you need training.” As I walked off I said, EXACTLY…..go check out Reno Guns 😉  I heard her say your right thanks, I will check it out. 😉     With that said, I think it is SUPER important for anyone to train and practice practice practice. Being a gun owner is like anything else, you need to keep up your skills. Women( I say women because I have more women who quietly send me messages because they are nervous and or scared to be around guns) do NOT be afraid to come in and train. Don’t be afraid to be around guns, remember guns DO NOT OPERATE BY THEMSELVES. Talk to me about anything and if I don’t know the answer I work with some amazing guys that will have an answer. At Reno Guns we have some great instructors and like a customer said last week to me….they are cute to look at too.  😉

I also want to take a second to address some other readers/bloggers recent  blogs about how how can some people be so sick and look so good. Many of us who look “GOOD” on the outside understand this issue. In many of our cases, it is our INSIDES that are sick which YOU CANT SEE. This is why they call it “invisible disease.”  Or when someone asks what your disease is and then they want to tell you what to do for it, when they know ZERO about it. In the end we know our fight, and we do NOT need to PROVE to anyone anything and we certainly do not need to listen to others rude comments about what they WOULD do if they had our disease. —-This is one of  my favorite—-  We have a hard enough time with loved ones, doctors etc, we don’t need shit from bystanders. Love yourself always even if it IS just second to second

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